Gratitude can change lives.
Sometimes people question my ability to stay optimistic all the time, but here’s the secret behind it:
I choose to live me life with a philosophy of unconditional gratitude for everything around me and every experience, be it positive or negative, because every experience is a beautiful opportunity to learn and to grow. I choose to see the beauty in everything around me.
Our outlook in life is a beautiful choice.
So choose gratitude.
Having just begun my final year of high school, I feel so incredibly grateful to have so many wonderful people on my side. My support network seems to have blossomed recently.
But it actually hasn’t. The only real change to my support network is that I now know and appreciate that it’s there. I’d forgotten, or maybe never truly knew, that no one is alone, and we CAN turn to other people for help and support when it’s needed or wanted.
For me, that just reinforces the importance of being a support to other people. I feel so supported, and I now want other people to know that the same is true for them.
We’re all facing a challenging time, whoever and wherever we are. And we all need to support each other.
So if I could only give one piece of advice for the rest of my life, it would be to remember that no one is alone, and there are always means of support available.There are always people on your side who will be there for you. Sometimes you just have to be able to ask for it.
Because as a wise man once said, help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who ask for it. And the same is true in the muggle world.
And I would say to extend your support network always.
If you could only ever give one piece of advice, for the rest of your life, what would it be?
So often, I see people searching for happiness outside themselves. I think that’s the reason they can’t find it.
Because the thing is, even though I’m not a psychologist and I’m not an expert on it, I believe that true, lasting happiness never results from external factors aligning. Happiness is a way of life and it comes from within. Happiness is an outlook and a choice.
Everyone wants to be happy. And everyone can be happy, irrelevant of their circumstances. But not enough people seem to know how. I don’t understand this, because (for me at least) it’s so simple: you just choose.
Finding inner happiness has meant for me that even when something in my external environment causes me to be sad, I’m still inwardly happy. The sadness can come and go, but the happiness will always be there to say “okay, that was good, we got to experience another emotion. That’s good for our growth. Now let’s move on to the next experience.”
When you’re truly happy, for no reason, you can see the beauty of sadness and the ease of moving on and being okay. When you’re truly happy, you can accept whatever negative feelings life may throw at you, and know it’s all for the better and it will all be okay.
In looking for happiness, so many people ask how. But the better question to ask, I feel, is where. Where? Inside yourself.
So do yourself a favour and choose to be happy today.
To anyone I’ve ever forgotten to believe in: I hope you can believe in yourself more than I did.
To anyone I ever stop loving or walk away from: I hope your love for yourself is more unconditional than my love for you has been.
To anyone I ever hurt or have hurt in love: your value doesn’t decrease because of my inability to see it.
You are great even when I can’t see your greatness. Even when it feels like no one else around you can see your greatness, that greatness is still there. It doesn’t mean YOU shouldn’t still see it.
I’ve been thinking lately about how my present is the most beautiful era of my life so far. I’m clearheaded and I’ve learnt so much, and I’m still always learning.
Even though I’ve had fun times in the past, and even though I used to want to live back in those times, I now realise that I don’t want to go back there and erase everything I’ve learnt over the years. I want to keep moving forwards and keep experiencing new things and keep learning and keep growing as a person.
My favourite age is now, and there’s no point looking back and thinking about what might have been. And if I did go back – there’s nothing I would do differently.
A friend of mine told me today that I love other people too much, and he can’t understand it. He said he doesn’t understand why I’m so deeply fascinated and intrigued by every person I meet. And by everything I see. And by everything I experience.
I guess he has a point, about things fascinating me. It’s true that I could go on a five minute walk and find twenty-five things that I loved or that made my day. Every person I meet touches my heart. Every emotion I experience I enjoy purely because it’s an experience.
But is it really possible to love too much? I don’t think so.
Love has no limit. Our ability to love one another is limitless. We are able to love and care about every person we meet and still have endless more love left to give. Just like the sun has enough light for every person on this earth, our hearts have enough light and love to share around with everyone we come into contact with.
Some may say that in doing so we are putting our hearts on the line. But that’s only if we expect that love to be reciprocated. Which we shouldn’t do; real love should be given without a want or need for anything in return.
I can’t ever imagine becoming so jaded that other people become “just another person”. Because they’re not. Every person is an interesting and fascinating individual with a story to tell.
I believe in letting every person touch my heart in some way.
And I believe in love.
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Lately I’ve been thinking about the enormous impact a single kind act can have on a person’s life.
I guess, at the end of the day we have no way of knowing what each person we meet is going through, but we know that every person is fighting a hard battle of some kind.
For me, in the past couple of days I had started to stress. I need a really high mark at the end of this year to get into the course I want, and I was getting worried that my dad – who doesn’t live with me, but who still likes to wreak havoc from time to time – would come along and do or say something to send everything up in flames. I felt very alone in my endeavor, forgetting about my huge support system and all the people I can turn to for help this year.
In the middle of these stressful few days, filled with many tears, the son of a family friend, without knowing anything of how I was feeling, offered to give me a hand with my maths work if I came across anything that was taking up more time than necessary. He sat with me for a few hours and talked me through the entire topic I’m currently learning at school.
Obviously, this helped with my maths work, but it did so much more than that. This person reminded me, through this small act of kindness, that I am not alone, and even if things do come crashing down around me there will be people I can turn to to help me rebuild.
I think that’s one of the reasons I value kindness so much. We often don’t even realise how in need other people can be, because the majority of people aren’t going around asking for kindness. But chances are, every person we meet is in need of it some way, whether they know it or not.
Kindness matters. Kindness changes lives.
How about you? How has the kindness of others impacted onto you recently?